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Wang Shuqin, a member of the Communist Party of China, a master of education, a state-certified class 2 psychological counselor, is currently a counselor for the 2021 3+1+1 Program of International College.

Since joining in 2016, she has always kept in mind the mission of educating students to become talents, and has always adhered to "strict management with love" for students. She is student-oriented, and is committed to being a guide for students as well as "a teacher and a friend". She pays attention to self-growth, and has participated in special training for many times, such as "In-depth Counseling Workshop for Counselors", "National College Psychological Crisis Prevention and Intervention Network Training", " Psychological Assessment and Diagnosis of Children and Adolescents “and "Ethics of Psychological Consultation and Therapy ". She actively participates in student counseling and interviews in the school counseling center, and constantly explore the integration of educating and helping students into work of counselors.

【Impressions about work】

A Serious and Soft Heart

I still remembered a student once told me that his first impression of me is a bit of fierce. After communicating and getting along day after day, he gradually understood. In fact, in getting along with students every day, counselors must do a good job in daily student management. It is inevitable that they need to be serious and strict, and they must also be caring and considerate. The serious part lies in clarifying the bottom line of the rules, reminding and spurring students when they are lazy and slack, and letting students admit and correct their mistakes when they make mistakes. The soft part lies in empathizing with the situation of students, and giving them the help, care and encouragement when they are lost and frustrated. In my daily communication with students, I try to talk on the phone or face-to-face as much as possible, in order to better understand the current state of students through the most intuitive factors such as speech and expressions, and to provide guidance and education with warmth.

Two Daily Routines I Have to Say

There are two things that have to mention in the daily life of getting along with students, one is to check attendance and grant leave; the other is a heart-to-heart talk. Every day I take time to walk around the classroom to see if my students are doing well today. Are they fully involved in class? Are there manifestations that require further communication? In my opinion, class is the indicator that can most directly reflect the state of students in all aspects. By observing class attendance and other performance, we can preliminarily identify students' ideological dynamics. At the same time, it is important to maintain communication with the classroom teacher to get a better understanding of the overall situation. About asking for leave, though some students may not understand the counselor's insistence or complain at first. Upholding the principle of promoting students to develop good habits and perseverance, I will send students a notice about asking for leave in advance, carefully verify the situation, communicate with parents when necessary, and carefully approve their asking for leave.

If "approval of leave" is a way of getting to know students, then I prefer to knock on doors through conversation. For students who come to ask for leave, I will try to chat with them as much as possible to talk about the current situation. I will chat with students face-to-face about their study, life, and emotions during classes, which make me often feel that the time is too short. I sit with students downstairs in the dormitory, even if facing the silence, I also want to try to hear the voice in their hearts. The heart-to-heart talk inspired me too. What they are interested in, what they are good at, and how they describe the world are also expanding my understanding of this generation and making me think about how I should get along with them.

The Three "Voices" of Becoming a Counselor Are Fortunate

I am fortunate to take the road of youth again as a "counselor", saying goodbye to the old and welcoming the new. Year after year, with my students, it seems that I will never grow old. I am fortunate to accompany my students from innocence to maturity. I firmly believe that each student is a unique flower, and each flower has its own flowering period. What the counselor needs to do is to irrigate and protect the flowers, while discovering and appreciating the beauty of the flowers, while caring for the growth of the flowers. I am fortunate to be constantly refining myself in the complicated and important daily affairs of the "counselor", hoping to do more things that are helpful to the growth of students.

【Short Stories with Students】

Student Hu:

"There is always someone to help you open your heart when you are lost, someone to show you the way when you are desperate, and someone to help you regain your morale when you give up. For me, this is my counselor, Ms. Wang.

I didn't get along with Ms. Wang for a long time, and I felt Ms. Wang's enthusiasm even before we met. At the beginning of the year, I was seriously ill and had fever of unknown origin for several months. In order to find out the cause, blood was drawn again and again, and CT was performed again and again. I was in a state of extreme panic and had no intention of studying. Because I asked for leave at home, Ms. Wang actively contacted me by phone. I was originally very resistant, thinking that the counselor's call would not help me in any way. Unexpectedly, Ms. Wang not only did not blame me, but also actively applied for online classes for me. Ms. Wang explained the college's leave system in detail with my parents, shared the learning situation of the class with me, and also cared about my physical condition in real time. Ms. Wang told me that there are no useless experiences in life, which also reminded me of the words my mother often said, "How can life be fulfilling, and everything is only half-satisfactory". I felt the same warmth from both.

When I went back to school, I had no idea what to do with the courses I missed in the past few months, and the missed exams made me want to suspend my studies. Ms. Wang took the time to communicate with me alone, soothed my anxiety, and took me to find relevant teachers to apply for make-up exams. And what moved me most was that Ms. Wang arranged for many classmates to help me answer my questions, which not only caught up with the progress but also deepened the relationship with my classmates.

Although Ms. Wang does not teach us courses, she needs to understand the relevant arrangements of all subjects. She is the most closely connected teacher in our daily life. To me, she is a competent teacher, a caring friend, and a backing that I can rely on in times of difficulty. "

Student Ye:

"I still remembered that Ms. Wang came to take over our class in my sophomore year. Seeing her name first, and I thought that she would be a more serious and older counselor. After meeting, I found that she seemed to be about the same age as us. A young girl with glasses full of energy. Students in their early 20s always like to cause trouble, play tricks and skip class. Every day seeing Ms. Wang walking passed the window, and I would straighten my waist that was clearly not straight, and gave her a look: Look, I'm having a good class today!

Because I often suffered from illnesses, I had to travel back and forth between school and the hospital for a long time. Heavy schoolwork and illness made me always unhappy. Every time I asked for leave, I felt a little embarrassed. Although I knew my graduation have no direct relationship with Ms. Wang, but I knew that I made her worry. I was taller than her, but I was always ill.  I couldn’t let go of my self-esteem, and always said "It's okay, it's okay". She always cares about me, making me feel at home, and she likes my sister who cares about me. Every time walking out of the office, I tried to grit your teeth to hold back your sour nose.

Youth is always like this, obviously moved and still pretended to be tough, obviously wanted to say "thank you" to her, but still turned and walked away. It left me a deep impression.

On the last day when I left the teaching building, I came downstairs from the fourth floor, and I happened to bump into Wang Dao. She was dressed in a white T-shirt, which looked a little hurried. In fact, at that time, she was no longer our counselor. I moved my eyes to say hello to her, but my heart was a little ashamed, because I just went to the teaching building to give my teacher a graduation present, but I forgot to prepare it for my caring sister.

 People are always moving forward, always forgetting those who really care about themselves along the way. I ran away the teaching building with my head down, knowing that this might be the last time I meet her. I always couldn’t help crying, but this time I really felt sorry that the gratitude for this year has finally been unspoken. "Thank you, Ms. Wang." Although I didn't give you a gift, I meditated it many times in my heart, "A good person like you will definitely achieve what you want."

Student Wu:

"Recalling that the first time I met Ms. Wang was in my junior year. Due to the successive changes of counselors in the previous two years, I didn't even want to take the initiative to communicate with the counselors. But the turning point happened after our first heart-to-heart communication.

It was clear that Ms. Wang took the initiative to talk to me at the beginning. But after that, I would go to the office every time after class, just to have a few more words with Ms. Wang. Because she has her own teaching philosophy, is good at teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, and communicates with me sincerely. Whether it was learning difficulty or trivial matter in life, she was always inspiring me to move forward with motivational words all the time. From assisting Ms. Wang in checking dormitories to organizing safety drills for students, Ms. Wang took me out step by step. With the courage she gave me, I could also be brave enough to host programs in club activities, and even participate in large-scale volunteer activities afterwards.

These wonderful experiences were things I didn't dare to think about before. But with the encouragement of Ms. Wang, I realized that I could also become my ideal person. She takes care of me like a sister and can tell her anything on my mind. I am very grateful to Ms. Wang during my days at Xiamen University. Although my year together with her was short, it inscribed in my heart. "